How to Conquer Any Challenge

In no way is this meant to sound like a boast, but I’m pretty sure it’ll come off as one anyways.

My greatest talent is my ability to quickly conquer challenges, no matter how difficult they may be, and obtain the results I desire while doing so every time.

Okay, now that I’m done boasting, I’ll shift into selfless mode and share my sure-fire success formula with you. I’ve used this formula to ace countless exams while in college, become an expert in the field of women and dating, become a strong poker player in a short amount of time, and advance leaps and bounds in my spiritual development.

No matter the specifics of your particular challenge (acquiring a new skill, squeezing out an incredible performance in a short amount of time, gaining control over a chaotic area of your life, etc.) apply this formula and I’m confident you’ll achieve the results you desire every single time.

Without further ado, here’s the formula.

1. Cultivate a Burning Desire for Success

This is the first and most important step of the formula. Without a burning desire for success, you won’t have the fuel necessary to stick to your guns when the going gets tough, and will give up way too easily. You won’t want it bad enough.

With a burning desire for success, however, your drive will become even stronger when facing potential obstacles. Rather than stopping you, these obstacles will serve as additional fuel for your burning desire once you’ve overcome them. There’s no better way to boost your self-confidence than to prevail in spite of all the obstacles that stand in your way.

I absolutely love to cultivate a burning desire for success by deliberately putting myself in tremendously tough situations. When I was still in college, I would purposely never go to class, and would wait until a few days before an exam to start studying for it. I thrive under pressure, and there’s nothing I love more than facing a seemingly impossible challenge. I knew that by intentionally putting myself in the tough situation described above, I would cultivate the burning desire for success necessary to ace any exam thrown my way.

Over the past few years, channeling my frustration has been another great method I’ve used to stoke my burning desire for success. Three years ago, I was extremely frustrated with my dating situation. I felt like I had no control over my dating life, and had no selection when it came to women. If I was lucky, a girl may have looked my way once or twice. I hated that I had to rely on chance to land the girl of my dreams.

As this frustration built up, I became more and more motivated to change my bleak dating situation. Finally my frustration reached its flash point, and a raging wildfire suddenly ignited within. I decided I was going to become a master with women and dating, and nothing was going to stop me.

While these two methods of cultivating my burning desire for success have worked for me, they may not work for you. Different methods work for different people, and the key is to identify the method that works best for you.

Ask yourself, what does it take for you to really start wanting something? Look to your past and identify those times when you wanted something really bad, and figure out how this desire started in the first place.

Did you want to prove to yourself that you were capable of achieving something great?

Did you want to prove to others that you were capable of doing something incredible?

Were you highly unsatisfied with the quality of an area of your life?

Did having your back against the wall in a pressure situation motivate you?

2. Decide You’ll Do Whatever it Takes to Get the Results You Desire

By deciding to do whatever it takes to obtain the results you desire, you’re almost guaranteeing your success before you even get started. Understand you can only fail when you throw in the towel, and that whatever obstacles you experience along your path to success will yield to stern resolve. Therefore, failure is not an option.

I’ll admit, it’s challenging to adopt this mindset under normal circumstances. But these are not normal circumstances, my friend. Your burning desire for success will be RAGING so uncontrollably that you’ll have no problem believing that your success is inevitable.

Here’s an awesome quote to illustrate the mindset you need to have:

“Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to stern resolve. He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind.”

- Leonardo Da Vinci

I’m pretty sure we can agree that Da Vinci was a wise man. You’d be just as wise to acknowledge that no matter how challenging the path to success may seem, your unshakable commitment to success will always triumph any challenge thrown your way no matter what.

3. Apply Overwhelming Force

Don’t just skim the top of the water with your feet. Dive in head first! Tackle this challenge with your full arsenal of weaponry. Attack it from every angle, and don’t ease off the trigger until it’s been completely annihilated.

When I finally decided I was going to earn a living as a professional poker player, I knew that to succeed I would have to learn how to play the incredibly complex game optimally. I also knew that easing into things wasn’t going to help me conquer this challenge, and that I’d have to hit the ground running right away if I was to have any shot at success.

I immediately applied overwhelming force to my learning efforts.

I started reading poker strategy forums tirelessly, tore through tons of books insatiably, played in nearly a thousand online tournaments, studied and analyzed my hand histories endlessly, discussed tough hands with friends that were better than me into the wee hours of the night, and subscribed to a coaching website and watched hundreds of hours of strategy videos created by top professional poker players.

Can you say overkill?

I estimate I spent 10-12 hours a day, 5 days a week for 2 months learning the game. I ate, slept, and breathed poker. As crazy as this regimen might sound, at the end of the 2 month period I had learned the ins and outs of the game more thoroughly than most people would over the course of 2 years. By applying overwhelming force, I significantly shortened my learning curve, and became a strong poker player in a ridiculously short amount of time. The crazy regimen was well worth the reward.

Don’t dawdle around and spend years conquering a challenge. Your burning desire will most likely fizzle out over such an extended period of time. Instead, decide to apply overwhelming force to the rest of the steps listed below, and conquer that challenge as soon as possible!

4. Learn from the Experts

Actively seek out knowledge from experts who have already conquered your challenge. By doing so, your learning curve will shorten significantly, and you’ll absorb the best knowledge simultaneously.

I can’t stress to you enough how important this step is. Every single time I’ve conquered a challenge, a major factor in my success was the knowledge I acquired from experts.

When learning about women and dating, I got hold of all of David DeAngelo’s “Double Your Dating” programs, and gobbled up his knowledge on the subject. I then studied the Mystery Method, and completed Zan Perrion’s Enlightened Seduction program.

While pursuing my spiritual growth, I’ve read many books written by different masters explaining various spiritual pathways. I’ve attended a Vipassana Meditation course. I’ve corresponded regularly with a highly evolved spiritual mentor for over a year.

Whenever I was faced with a challenging exam on a subject I knew little about, I always studied with a friend who already had a great understanding of the material. I didn’t waste my time in study groups with people who only had a cursory understanding of the material at hand. Instead, I aligned myself with the brightest students in the class (the experts), and quickly mastered the material by picking their brain.

Who are the experts that have already conquered the challenge you’re facing now? Buy their books, attend their seminars, follow their instruction, and absorb as much of their knowledge as you possibly can. This will clear your pathway to success.

5. Seek a Thorough Theoretical Understanding

Any challenge you face will have a theoretical component, as well as an application component. Theory is the studying part, while application requires you to put what you’ve learned to the test in the real world. Most people tend to neglect theory, and focus their efforts solely on the application component of the challenge instead. These people think theory and studying are worthless, and that real results are only obtained through constant practice and application.

At face value their belief seems to make sense, but in reality it’s only partially accurate. When you examine it a bit closer you’ll come to realize these people are doing themselves a HUGE disservice by choosing to conquer their challenges with this mindset.

An advanced theoretical understanding will lay the foundation necessary to interpret the valuable lessons you’ll learn while tackling the application component of your challenge. Without the theoretical understanding in place, you won’t be able to extract the valuable lessons yielded by your real world application.

Also, a solid theoretical understanding will enrich the overall experience of conquering your challenge because you’ll understand exactly why you’re getting certain results. By understanding the mechanics at work behind the scenes, you’ll have a much deeper experience than someone else who chooses to neglect the theoretical component of the challenge.

During the Vipassana Meditation course I attended in July, there was an extensive theoretical component, as well as an application component of the practice. Every evening there was a discourse that provided all of the theoretical information we students would need to understand what we were learning.

While most students blew off this aspect of the course and only paid attention to the application component of the meditation, I made it a point to thoroughly understand all of the information the teacher was giving us. I used the time allocated for teacher interviews to ask my teacher as many questions as possible to clear up any confusion I had. As a result I was able to reach a deeper stage of meditation than any of the other new students at the course, and the experience was that much more powerful for me.

6. Apply Your Understanding

While theoretical understanding is crucial to your success in any endeavor, it’s only 50% of the equation. The other 50% of the equation is the application of your theoretical understanding.

Reading books and absorbing the wisdom of experts will only get you so far. At some point you’ll have to apply what you’ve learned, and what you’ll usually find is that while understanding is one thing, application is an entirely different animal.

You may have the best theoretical understanding of a subject in the world, but as soon as you try to apply what you’ve learned you’ll crash and burn just like everybody else. Don’t get discouraged! This is a natural part of the learning process, and has to happen. Invite and appreciate failure because it’s your greatest ally on your pathway to success. Success can only be reached after you’ve failed many, many times.

After crashing and burning a few times, you’ll soon find that your thorough theoretical understanding gives you a distinct advantage in the learning process. You’ll learn from your mistakes much faster, because you’ll understand why they’re happening, and will be able to solve the problems causing them at their roots.

When learning how to play poker, I mistakenly believed that by reading tons of books and watching a lot of strategy videos I would get better in no time without any practice. I figured I would be an expert as soon as I hit the virtual felt because of my conceptual understanding of the game.

Boy was I wrong.

Only once I had played in hundreds of tournaments, made thousands of mistakes, and reviewed countless hand histories did I notice a significant improvement in my poker game. I realized that if I was to succeed in conquering the challenge of earning a living playing poker, I was going to have to spend time studying AND practicing.

Balance your theoretical understanding by applying what you’ve learned, and you’ll find that the learning process is much more efficient than it once was when you lacked this balance.

7. Teach Others What You Have Learned

This is the icing on the cake, the final step in the process of conquering any challenge you choose to face.

Teaching others what you’ve learned is the best way to solidify your understanding of what you’ve learned. Find people who are interested in conquering the same challenge you’re interested in, but who don’t yet have the theoretical understanding necessary to do so. You’ll find that in order to teach these people what you’ve learned you’ll need a much higher level of understanding.

The reason for this is because your “students” will ask you many questions you hadn’t considered while learning the material. Their questions will come from all sorts of angles, and your understanding will really be tested. You probably won’t be able to answer all of their questions, and that’s okay! This process is awesome because it’ll expose concepts you previously overlooked, and will give you a chance to further deepen your understanding of these concepts.

When they ask you questions you already know the answer to, that’s great too! This will drill concepts that you already know further into your head, and your understanding of these concepts will become even better than it was before.

After you’ve spent enough time teaching others what you’ve learned, you’ll find that your level of understanding has skyrocketed to previously unknown levels. Also, the application portion of your challenge will be significantly easier because your excellent theoretical understanding will serve as application’s rock-solid foundation.

Parting Words

So there you have it, my secret formula to conquering any challenge.

As I wrote in the beginning of the article, conquering challenges is my super talent (I identified it using the book “Is Your Genius at Work?”) and I’ve been unconsciously using it for as long as I can remember. I’m extremely glad I’ve finally written out the whole process on paper, and I’m even happier that it’s going to help countless others tackle their most daunting challenges.

Apply this formula, and I assure you that you will successfully tackle any challenge you may face, no matter how tough it may be. Through this article I’ve given you the theoretical understanding you’ll need to make this happen. Now, all you have to do is put it into practice! :)

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  1. Bunny got Blog said on December 23rd, 2008 at 10:36 pm

    OK Rahul- Hello by the way,
    You had me at create a burning desire for success. I totally agree with you. The more you want it the harder you strive to have it.My outlook and I say this all the time.
    Never see obstacles but opportunities.

    I received an email the other.A friend had told me that her co-worker had been laid off. That was last week.I know this had to be a shock just before Christmas but being depressed over it isn’t going to make it go away.He needs to turn it around to a positive experience,which only he can do.
    Things happen for a reason.The only action you can take, is make it an opportunity to go after a bigger better job.Make it happen!
    Now the thing with the dating.Well,I never went looking for Mr.Right.
    Many do.Both genders are naturally prone to wanting a mate but what really matter is where you are in your life. You have to be ready.The timing has to be right.You have to know exactly what you are looking for in a partner.
    I never considered that I dated much.Mainly always socialized in a group of close friends.I didn’t want a serious relationship until I was well into my career.Then there were a couple ” close but no cigar”.They found me when I wasn’t looking for a relationship.Dam- did I just skip past your dating paragraph to committed relationship.
    Sorry about that but I will confess I finally made a metal list of what I desired in a partner.By the time I was ready to take a guy seriously I was not in dating for fun.He really had to have several quality’s on that list or I wasn’t interested.
    My fiance once told me I sounded like I was making a business deal when we talked about where our relationship was going.
    I think I learned a lot about men during my early years working at a finance company.Other then that have a lot of friends that picked a different flavor of the month for years.Which I didn’t care about doing.

    The thing about dating someone is you have to impress the person by being yourself and being honest.Unfortunately if you don’t, it takes months to peel off the mask that has been displayed. But it will come off eventually.

    This is a very interesting article.
    keep up the good work

  2. Relax said on December 23rd, 2008 at 11:59 pm

    Hi Rahul. Thanks for sharing your success formula. What you say really helps.

    However, I have to disagree with you on point number 1.
    Burning desire does help in challenges. It’s a powerful fuel, no doubt about it.
    But it’s NOT an important factor in facing challenge.
    There are many people who face challenges without burning desire like a cool cucumber, with their knowledge, wisdom, experience, or resources.

    I give you 2 examples to illustrate my points

    1) A dude aims to be financially free in 5 years time in difficult economy, which is a challenge. He calmly analyse his investing sstrategy and invest consistantly with dollar cost averaging.
    Without much burning fire in his heart to reach financial freedom, he succeeded after years of being cool and calm in his investment.

    2) A guy who want to shred pounds off his body and become a marathon runner just join his friends in running sessions without much expectation. he just do it consistantly for fun and reached his dream

    Burning desirre? Yes, it helps. It’s powerful
    Is it important? No. It’s optional

    just sharing my view.
    See ya soon my friend :)

  3. Ian Peatey said on December 24th, 2008 at 1:01 am

    Rahul … Not that I will be, but I’d hate ever to be an obstacle in the way of you getting to where you want to get, my friend! :-) This is a seriously well written article – your passion oozes from every word!

    I agree with pretty much everything you write. I’d like to add to the first point where you talk about desire to succeed. In my experience a critical part of this is getting clear about what success means for me in terms of values – both my desired goal and how I want to achieve it.

    I’d add 2 questions to ask myself at this early stage

    On my path to success AND when I achieve it:

    1 what deeper values will I be serving?
    2 are there any deeper values that I will not be serving?

    The answers to these questions will help me check that both my target and my path are really serving me and not just fuelling a hungry ego.

    For example, my desire to date women might come from an ego need to get laid to prove to myself that I’m desirable. Then the way I go about it might include lying, to impress the girl (not serving my values around honesty and integrity). On the other hand my goal might come from a deeper place serving my needs for intimacy, openness and physical pleasure. It’s likely then that I will be completely authentic and honest on my path.

    When I’m clear and aligned with my values it’s less likely that I’ll ever need to use overwhelming force as things come to me more easily. And if I do use force, then I’m less likely to do any damage because I’m clear how it’s serving life.

    Thanks for the stimulation, as always!

    Ian

    Btw .. have you found the girl of your dreams yet?

  4. Rahul Bhambhani said on December 24th, 2008 at 8:52 am

    @ Bunny – I agree, it is his responsibility to make the most out of his situation. I’m pretty sure if something like that happened to me I’d be devastated at first, but then it would just fuel my burning desire for success furthermore.

    That’s awesome that you’ve made a list of exactly what you want from the man you’re with. It’s absolutely necessary to know what you’re looking for down to the tee otherwise you’ll end up settling, and that leads to problems later on in the relationship.

    My girlfriend also said that I deal with our relationship like a business deal! Haha, I guess that’s a good thing right? We expect certain things from our partners, and they expect certain things also. By laying it all out on the table before the relationship gets started, everybody is clear about what’s expected of them.

    @ Relax – Thanks for stopping by! You make some great points, and in your examples you’re right, a burning desire for success isn’t necessary. As you’ve illustrated, some challenges can be successfully conquered without a burning desire for success, because something else can take desire’s place (just having fun, consistency over a long period of time). However, I’ve found in my experience that this burning desire only makes things easier, and I’m convinced that it is necessary to tackle the toughest of challenges.

    This step is optional, as you said. Actually, all of the steps listed here are optional. However, by applying all of them on your quest to conquer challenges, they have a synergistic effect and it’s that much easier and effective.

    @ Ian – I love the points you’ve added here! I agree that it’s important to know which values you’re satisfying when pursuing a particular challenge. This way you’ll always be sure you’re committing “right” action.

    The concept of overwhelming force isn’t really related to “force” as much as it is to power. Force implies that you’re doing something against your will, while power implies that you’re using your capacities willingly to blow through any obstacles. I’ve always found the application of overwhelming “force” to be extremely useful when tackling tough challenges, because it totally immerses me in the learning process and I conquer the challenge quickly and efficiently.

    Yes, I have found the girl of my dreams, and I know that it wouldn’t have been possible if I didn’t take the time to learn the concepts I did. I agree with you of course that being fake will only lead to problems later on, and I believe that the most powerful attraction is sparked when a person is completely authentic. This is the approach I’ve used, and it’s worked really well for me!

    Thanks for all of the excellent comments all! Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

  5. Xurxo Vidal said on December 24th, 2008 at 9:31 am

    Rahul-

    Your insight is dead on when it comes to conquering challenges. This post reminds me quite a bit of an article I read in Ode Magazine about “The Power of Intention” and how Muhammad Ali use this technique to overcome some of his toughest challenges. http://www.odemagazine.com/doc/40/the_power_of_intention

    It involved using verbal and mental intentions or visualizations to foresee the outcome he wanted and then work to make that happen. The trick was that in his head he had already won -already succeeded.

    Here’s a fascinating and very useful excerpt from that article –
    “Research with another machine, the electroencephalogram (EEG), has shown that the electrical activity produced by the brain is identical, whether we’re thinking about doing something or actually doing it. In weightlifters, for instance, EEG patterns in the brain that would be activated to lift several hundred pounds are also activated by simply imagining lifting that weight. Just the thought is enough to produce the neural instructions to carry out the physical act.”

    How’s that for food for thought?

    You’ve broken down things further by outlining specific steps to achieving similar results. Tie this in with the fact that creating a burning desire for success and seeing the outcome in your mind before it happens will actually evoke the butterfly effect and cause you to do things and think in a certain way that will allow you to overcome challenges and reach your goals, makes for sound and actionable advice.

    Thanks for sharing your methods and insights – as always it’s a pleasure to read (and learn from) your posts!

  6. Mike King said on December 24th, 2008 at 3:24 pm

    Great article and excellent follow up and comments everyone! Love the points about having a passion (burning desire) or whatever you want to call it based on things you have true meaning with. If that exists, the (you may call them optional or not) extra steps outlined here fall into place much more naturally.

    Well written and useful content Rahul! Have a great holiday season and Merry Christmas!

  7. Arswino said on December 25th, 2008 at 10:52 pm

    Hi Rahul, an awesome article, especially I am interested in :
    - the first point about burning desire. Without burning desire our dream are just a dream.
    - the sixth point about apply your understanding. Many people are lack of action because they are fear to make mistakes.
    - the seventh point about teach others what you have learned, because it is the best way to be an expert in something.
    I like your thoughts, Rahul.

  8. Rahul Bhambhani said on December 27th, 2008 at 7:55 pm

    @ Xurxo – I LOVE using visualization in the process of achieving my goals. It’s such a powerful technique, and as you outlined from your awesome resource, it’s just like you’re doing the real thing! Definitely some food for thought.

    Thanks for your awesome contribution to the discussion, and I’m glad you found the article insightful and helpful. Please do continue to stop by! :)

    @ Mike – Thanks for the compliment! I’m glad you found this article useful! Burning desire surely is one of the most important steps in this process.

    @ Arswino – What you’ve said here is so true. I’m so happy to see that you vibed with the article. Thank you for the compliments!

    Thank you all for your comments!

  9. Joe said on December 29th, 2008 at 8:01 am

    Fantastic stuff my friend! Without passion for what we want we can accomplish nothing. I can’t put my finger on it, but I think it was a Tony Robbins CD I got some great suggestions from.

    Upon encountering an issue big or large always ask yourself these 5 questions.

    -What could be great about this?
    -What is not perfect yet?
    -What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?
    -What am I willing to no longer do to achieve what I want?
    -What can I do to accomplish this and enjoy the process?

    As I go through the steps you have laid out, I find these questions useful upon coming up on obstacles the may pop up from time to time.

    Have a great trip!

  10. Nathalie Lussier said on January 8th, 2009 at 11:20 pm

    I think you’ve really hit the nail on the head. It takes some passion for your success to take root. I think your article is such a great in-depth view, which will help me and many others to overcome challenges!

  11. Rahul Bhambhani said on January 9th, 2009 at 10:03 pm

    @ Joe – Those are some AWESOME questions to ask yourself when approaching a challenge that you’ve aimed to conquer. Asking yourself the questions you’ve listed here makes sure that you’re always taking calculated action, which leads to much greater efficiency when tackling the challenge at hand.

    Thank you for sharing this tip with me and the readers, and thanks for the compliment!

    @ Nathalie – I’m so glad you found the article helpful and accurate :) Please do continue to stop by and contribute to the discussion. Thanks for the comment and compliment!

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